ANONYMOUS
Sunday, April 13, 2008
DEAR MS. ANDERSON,
IT IS WITH INTEREST I READ YOUR REQUEST FOR LIFE AND SINGLE AFTER 60. MINE IS A BIT DIFFERENT, NONETHELESS, DOES QUALIFY. BRIEFLY, AFTER SERIOUS ILLESS, JOB LOSS, DIVORCE IN 1998, I LEFT ROSEVILLE, CALIF. TO LIVE WITH MY ELDEST DAUGHTER IN THE PORTLAND AREA.
INITIALLY, I HAD HIGH EXPECTATIONS OF A GRADUATION INTO RETIREMENT. NEEDLESS TO SAY, WITHOUT DETAILS, THIS ARRANGEMENT DID NOT WORK OUT. WHEN FUNDS WERE RUNNING LOW MY DAUGHTER'S ATTITUDE CHANGED ABRUPTLY. BY NOW IT IS 2001, AND I WAS REINTRODUCED TO A MAN WHOM I HAD KNOWN FOR 20 YEARS. THIS WAS ABSOLUTELY THE HAPPINESS WE BOTH FELT AND NEEDED IN OUR LATER YEARS. HE AND I DETERMINED TO PURCHASE A HOME TOGETHER OUT IN THE COUNTRY. HE HAD HAD SOME HEALTH ISSUES WITH DIABETES/HEART. HE WAS WORKING AS A SUPERVIOR FOR A LARGE TRUCKING COMPANY. MEDICALLY RAY HAD CHALLENGES FOR THREE MONTHS BUT WAS ON THE ROAD TO A GOOD RECOVERY. WE WERE SO HAPPY. WE MOVED INTO OUR NEW HOME ON VALENTINE'S DAY, 2003. I CANNOT EXPLAIN MY LOSS IN WORDS. HE DIED OF A MASSIVE HEART ATTACK 10 DAYS AFTER WE MOVED IN.
I AM FOREVER GRATEFUL TO HAVE HAD THE BRIEF TIME WE HAD TOGETHER. ABSOLUTELY THE HAPPIEST I HAVE EVER BEEN. EVENTUALLY HAD TO SELL OUR HOME, MOVING TO A RETIREMENT AREA IN NORTH CLARK COUNTY. MY NEIGHBORS ARE WARM AND CARING. BUT MY LOSS WAS STILL NAGGING AT ME. CONSEQUENTLY, WHEN A FRIEND SUGGESTED I GO OUT WITH A SINGLE GENTLEMAN I DECIDED TO TRY DATING. THIS MAN WANTED ONLY ONE THING, AND AFTER THAT, DID I WANT TO INVEST IN A DEVELOPMENT? AND IF WE TOOK A TRIP BE PREPARED TO PAY MY WAY! HE WAS STILL WORKING AND HAD MONEY BUT NOT A VERY NICE MAN. HE HAD NO PERSONAL INTEREST IN WHO I AM OR ANY OF MY INTERESTS. THIS EXPLAINS WHY HE HAS HAD DIVORCE(S)........
LIFE NOW IS AN EVERYDAY CHALLENGE. WHAT KEEPS ME GOING ARE THE FACTS MY YOUNGEST DAUGHTER IS WORKING ON HER PHD. IN CRIMINOLOGY AT THE U OF CO. SHE IS A SINGLE MOM, AND WAS OFFERED THIS OPPORTUNITY. MY GRANDAUGHTER LIVES WITH THE FATHER HERE, SO TWO DAYS A WEEK I PICK UP MY GRANDAUGHTER AFTER SCHOOL AND WE SPEND THE AFTERNOON TOGETHER. I DELIGHT IN OUR TIME TOGETHER.
(HER MOM FLIES BACK AND FORTH FREQUENTLY OR I DRIVE/FLY TAKING MY GRANDAUGHTER TO DENVER FOR VISITS.)
FINANCIALLY AT THIS POINT IN TIME I AM ABSOLUTELY EXISTING ON THE MONTHLY SS. I HAVE FILLED OUT NUMEROUS APPLICATIONS ONLINE. FEEL MY AGE AND WHEN IT IS SEEN THE HIGH WAGES I MADE PRIOR TO AN ILLNESS PERHAPS PROSPECTIVE EMPLOYERS SEE ME AS NOT BEING ABLE TO WORK FOR MINIMUM WAGE. MY CHILDREN ARE VERY SHARING, BUT HAVE THEIR OWN FAMILIES AND RESPONSIBILITES. IT IS MY INTENT TO FIND SOMETHING PART-TIME TO SUBSIDIZE MY INCOME. MY BACKGROUND IS ONE OF SALES, MARKETING AND TRAINING ON PHONES FOR GTE/VERIZON. THIS IS A BRIEF OF MY LIFE AT AGE 66.
THANKS,
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