Letter: Lonely? Or just alone?
Thursday, January 3, 2013
Upon being released for recess, the first-graders naturally and quickly congregate into several boisterous groups. Just as naturally, a student, usually a boy, may be left alone.
Those seeking to understand how Adam Lanza could have murdered a total of 26 children and adults at Sandy Hook Elementary School would probably focus on the student standing alone for answers.
Do school personnel know whether the student is lonely, or just alone?
If judged to be unhappy, are there those trained and available to help him?
It's difficult to fault any of these students. Chances are that the lone student had, at one time, made friendly advances toward others but had been rebuffed. He may have unpleasant characteristics that would have to be addressed if they are to change. The students who easily join groups have the right to form their own friendships.
But if the unhappy, lonely student continues to be ignored, he may reach a point where he will no longer tolerate anonymity.