Should it really matter when parents often refer to their child as “my” son and/or “my” daughter, “my” (young or adult) child? Although likely unintentional, using the word “my” may communicate disrespect or exclusion of the other parent. The “my” reference suggests that the other parent had little or no responsibility regarding the son/daughter.
Why doesn’t Mom or Dad acknowledge each other by simply saying “our” son(s) or “our” daughter(s)? Should it matter? Yes, words may be the engine of change and just saying “our” son or daughter might promote a greater sense of family.
How about during this Christmas and holiday season, we all give the gift of using the word “our” as proud recognition to spouses and the child we both are raising or raised ?
Kay and Jim Postma
Vancouver