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Jayne: Don’t be like rapist’s father; teach your children well

By Greg Jayne, Columbian Opinion Page Editor
Published: June 12, 2016, 6:02am

As I might have mentioned, I have an 18-year-old daughter.

Have I written about that? Yeah, I thought so.

Because of this fact, like many parents I have been compelled by the recent story about a rape case at Stanford University. Scratch that. Like anybody with a conscience, I have been outraged by the recent story about a rape case at Stanford University.

Brock Turner, now 20, was a Stanford freshman in January 2015 when he was caught sexually assaulting a woman behind a dumpster. The story garnered national attention last week after Turner, who was convicted of three felonies, was sentenced to six months in jail. California state guidelines called for a minimum two-year sentence; the maximum was 14 years. But Judge Aaron Persky was worried that a long sentence would have a “severe impact” on Turner.

Severe? Let’s let the victim talk about severe. Let’s let the victim talk about being prodded and photographed at a hospital as investigators gathered evidence.

“After a few hours of this, they let me shower,” she said in a statement directed at Turner in court. “I stood there examining my body beneath the stream of water and decided, I don’t want my body anymore. I was terrified of it. I didn’t know what had been in it, if it had been contaminated, who had touched it. I wanted to take off my body like a jacket and leave it at the hospital with everything else.”

There is more. Much more. And it is gripping and powerful as the woman, now 23, articulates what it feels like to be a rape victim. Over the span of about 7,000 words (http://tinyurl.com/hchpk8w), she provides an excruciating takedown of her attacker, the judicial system, and the rape culture that is all too prevalent in this country.

You know, the culture that is reinforced when people like Dan Turner, the rapist’s father, write to the judge requesting leniency because, “His life will never be the one that he dreamed about and worked so hard to achieve. That is a steep price to pay for 20 minutes of action out of his 20-plus years of life.”

A steep price for “20 minutes of action?” I just threw up in my mouth a little bit.

You see, the problem is not a culture of drinking and promiscuity. The problem is one that does not tell people of privilege like Brock Turner that rape is not OK. That violating others is not acceptable. That dragging an unconscious woman behind a dumpster and removing her clothes has consequences, and that those consequences should be more costly than six months in a county jail. According to the Justice Department, 97 percent of sexual assault perpetrators never serve time in prison.

Sending a message

Michele Dauber, a Stanford Law School professor who is leading an effort to have the judge removed from the bench, told The Atlantic: “Think of the value of a two-year prison sentence in terms of what this would communicate about our social norms. … Instead, you’re sending the message that we basically don’t care. ‘Please don’t do it again, but we don’t really care.’ ”

No, we don’t really care. According to the Justice Department, one in six women in the United States have been the victims of an attempted or completed rape during their lifetimes, and yet we perpetrate this indignity by slut-shaming the victim or blaming alcohol or suggesting that 20 minutes of action is not worthy of severe punishment. And we should be embarrassed by a system that allows this to continue and discourages victims from coming forward in the first place.

How to change it? Well, our duty is not to teach our daughters how to avoid being assaulted; it is to teach our sons that there are boundaries — and they do not include the space behind a dumpster.

That is where this story really hits home. Because, while I have an 18-year-old daughter, I also have two younger sons. And they are the ones who will be taught the lessons that must be learned from the Stanford rape case.

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