Singletary: Medicaid column met with hate

For some, judging by the feedback I received, the answer is yes.

“Since you teach and preach personal responsibility, I urge you to [endorse] genetic testing,” a Virginia man wrote. “Your brother Mitchell should never have been conceived.”

Some readers wanted to know why my four siblings and I ended up living with my grandmother Big Mama, as if there should be a moral test to determine if we deserved aid.

I did not share that part of our story because it shouldn’t matter.

Do we really want a government that seeks to support only those people whom politicians deem worthy of assistance? Do we want to withhold health insurance from needy children until some bureaucrat makes an assessment of worthiness and checks a box?

If some parents — broken people for whatever reason — act irresponsibly, does that mean they should be disqualified from ever receiving aid? Should their children not be able to see a doctor or get medicine?

“Your opinions about Medicaid are not shared by everyone,” another reader wrote, “and although I am glad that you and your siblings were helped by this program, there are many hardworking people out there that are paying to support those who are careless in their decisions about having children in the first place and then expecting the government to take care of these children.”

And then there was the following email, most of which isn’t fit to print and which contained several uses of the N-word: “I see in your article about your childhood. Poor … blah, blah, blah. What makes you think white America is going to keep footing the bill for you [expletives]?”

Part of me loathes giving a platform to such hatred and racism. But that which we fail to reveal lives and grows in darkness.

I understand all too well the pathology of poverty. I don’t excuse those who make life choices that result in others having to pick up the pieces. I was one of those pieces.

Yet, we can’t afford to leave millions of people without a safety net.

Healthy people are more productive — able to work and pay taxes.

Amid the ugliness and judgment were folks who offered a more charitable view.

One reader wrote: “People who have never experienced severe health problems have no idea how hard it is to lead a productive life, much less determine how to pay heinously expensive medication and doctor-visit costs. If only they could walk a mile in those shoes, they would be as repulsed as many people are that Medicaid is being blamed for the national debt.”

There is no doubt that we have to control government spending. Just like with your household budget, you can’t forever sustain spending more than you take in.

But we also have to balance fiscal responsibility with the moral obligation to help our nation’s most vulnerable.

Michelle Singletary welcomes comments and column ideas. Reach her in care of The Washington Post, 1150 15th St. N.W., Washington, DC 20071; or singletarym@washpost.com.