Bernard Ferrari, author of “Power Listening: Mastering the Most Critical Business Skill of All,” writes about three behaviors that would serve us all well:
- Be respectful.
Appreciate the person you are talking to has a unique perspective and that perspective could broaden your understanding. When you show that person you’re really interested in his or her view, he or she is more likely to be more interested in your view.
- Talk less and listen more.
There’s no stopwatch required, but try this: Talk about 20 percent of the time and listen the other 80 percent. And with your 20 percent of the time, ask questions with some of it.
- Challenge assumptions.
Be willing to challenge the assumptions you have for forming the opinions you have. This is very difficult to do, but if we are not open to this concept and the person we’re talking with is not open to this concept, very little will change in life.
Listening is important for all of us. If we all really listened more, President Trump would still be starring in “The Apprentice.” Or if President Trump really listened more, he wouldn’t be such a testa dura.
All politicians should take a hint. And listen.
Speaking of listening, I happen to be listening to the camp that believes that kids don’t listen enough, and that’s in large part because they’re spending too much time on their smartphones. And because kids spend the majority of their waking young lives in school, it is the school system that must teach kids to back off of being joined at the hip to their phones.
There are school systems across the country that also believe this is a growing concern. Some force kids to check their phones at the door when they get to school. Others force kids to put them in a pouch, only to be pulled out in an emergency.
Essentially, smartphones have become addictive. Think of alcohol. In moderate amounts, there’s nothing terribly wrong with alcohol. But you know you might be in trouble if someone tries to take your drink away from you … and you go kinda nutty.
Try taking a phone away from a kid.
So what happens to kids’ learning ability if their phones are taken away from them? Well, a study by the London School of Economics showed that schools that banned students from using phones in school showed an improvement in their test scores. (OK, one study does not make the end-all case.)
But is there another side? A side I’m willing to listen to? You bet. I spoke with Vancouver Public Schools Superintendent Steve Webb a few days ago. Essentially, he’s in this camp: Technology is everywhere. Get used to it.
If we want to prepare future-ready graduates with the adaptive skills necessary to thrive in the interdependent, technology-driven work world of tomorrow, they need to access to future-ready technology tools to support their learning today, Webb said.
He added: Selecting the right resources is part of that process, along with teaching students about the responsible use of technology so that it enhances their learning and doesn’t detract from it.
When I asked if technology could be a distraction to learning, he had an answer:
We all know that students managed to find ways to be off-task long before mobile technology.
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OK, so let’s start a discussion on all of this. After all, you don’t want to be known as a testa dura.