Bernie Salazar felt fine, as good as any healthy father of a 2-year-old. He only scheduled a doctor’s visit because he received a calendar alert reminding him it was time for his annual wellness checkup. Bernie and his relatively new doctor had already discussed his weight, dieting history and health status the previous year, and he’d gotten “all clear” after normal lab results. But this time, after he stepped off the scale with what he considered a scant four-pound increase on his 260-pound frame, the doctor suggested it was time to talk about weight-loss surgery.
“I felt a very familiar sense of defeat and shame. Why would my doctor recommend a highly invasive, irreversible surgery without knowing my [most] recent labs or discussing my habits? He didn’t ask if I was concerned about my weight or if was open to discussing weight loss at all,” says Salazar, 37.
As the at-home winner of the fifth season of NBC’s “The Biggest Loser,” Salazar knows what losing weight requires from him: hypervigilant eating and exercise, significant investment of time and money, and sacrifice to his mental health. “I’d exercise for hours on end, limit myself to small portions of food, and fight constant hunger. My mind was always worried if I was losing or gaining weight,” says Salazar, who appears as an occasional guest on my podcast, Body Kindness. In the years that followed the show, his weight rose again — like that of most other contestants.
About the time his daughter was born, Salazar decided to stop the weight cycling “yo-yo” and instead focus on good habits, such as getting enough sleep, exercising regularly (including taking his daughter on daily walks), and cooking more at home. Though he had previously avoided the doctor because he couldn’t bear any more negative judgments about his weight, he also vowed to get annual physicals. Salazar feels better physically and emotionally with this approach to health, even though it doesn’t produce significant weight loss. But his promise to himself to get a yearly physical was being tested by this new doctor.