The Angels’ founders, David Blankenhorn, Bill Doherty and David Lapp, believed the United States needed those “better angels” more than ever after the 2016 presidential election. They were disturbed that many Americans no longer see their political opponents as merely wrong but as enemies. The founders organized a gathering of 10 Donald Trump supporters and 11 Hillary Clinton supporters in South Lebanon, Ohio, for the first “Red-Blue Workshop.”
The goal was to see if Americans could disagree respectfully and even find common ground. In that room, at least, it worked. And it has since then in similar workshops all around the country, according to the group.
A trademark dispute led the organization to change its name to Braver Angels, but according to its website, the new name is even better because “what we’re asking Americans to do today requires bravery.”
Counseling red, blue
Doherty, a family therapist and social-science professor at the University of Minnesota, designed the Braver Angels’ workshops and trainings and incorporated some of the same communication techniques used in marriage counseling.
Newcomers often are surprised that an organization seeking to bridge the political divide asks them to identify as “red” or “blue,” said Lorraine Howell of Seattle, a retired communications consultant who leads Braver Angels workshops.
“It’s built that way for a reason — so we can start listening to each other and pay attention and not be thinking of what we want to say next,” Howell said. “That’s a skill we don’t learn automatically growing up.”
She said even though she worked in broadcast journalism asking questions for a living, she didn’t listen in the way Braver Angels teaches. “I was always listening for, ‘Where’s the story?’ Not, ‘Where is this person coming from?’ ”
She said one of the questions Braver Angels teaches people to ask is, “ ‘What in your experience has brought you to that point of view?,’ instead of, ‘Why the hell do you think that way?’ ”
“The second part is then about speaking your own truth and your own point of view and doing it in such a way that it doesn’t make the other person wrong for what they think,” Howell said. “Those two skills make it possible for people to sit in the same room even though we disagree.”
She, Sockle and Spitzer all said they have witnessed transformations occur in Braver Angels workshops.
“People come into our workshops skeptical and even angry sometimes. I can tell by their body language even on Zoom — arms crossed, scowls on their faces, the tone when they introduce themselves. The same people end up leaving the workshop expressing hope for the future,” Spitzer said. “One of the things I’ve heard multiple times is, ‘I didn’t think there was any way we would find common ground, but it turns out we are much closer together than we are far apart.’ ”