For me, personally, it hasn’t made a bit of difference.
Gay marriage has been legal in Washington for about 17 months, and for longer in some other states, and I don’t feel any different. My wife doesn’t seem different; I don’t feel any less married; our union hasn’t been diminished. For years, that has been one of the arguments against same-sex marriage — it would diminish traditional marriage. But I don’t feel any different.
And that, it seems, is the best argument in favor of gay marriage — the screeds against it don’t stand up to scrutiny. Take the one about tradition, and how marriage has been between one man and one woman for thousands of years. Good point. Except that “tradition” was used centuries ago in defense of slavery and decades ago in defense of racial segregation.
Or take the one that eschews growing public opinion in favor of gay marriage and disingenuously asks, “What if most people thought pedophilia was OK?” Well, if you can’t discern the difference between consenting adults and child victims, then you probably shouldn’t be engaging in any debate, let alone one about important social issues.
Anyway, there was a video a couple years ago in which the Rev. Dr. Phil Snider, a pastor in Springfield, Mo., spoke before the city council about a proposed gay-rights ordinance. Snider said things such as gay rights are “another stepping stone toward the immorality and lawlessness that will be characteristic of the last days,” and that they are “a denial of all that we believe in and no one should force it upon us.” Then came the kicker: “I’m sorry … I’ve borrowed my argument from the wrong century. It turns out what I’ve been reading to you this whole time are direct quotes from white preachers from the 1950s and the 1960s, all in support of racial segregation.” He simply replaced “desegregation” with “gay rights.”