It took about eight years for Ahsan Mir to acknowledge he needed help.
Mir, who was diagnosed with kidney failure about eight years ago, is in need of a kidney transplant, as his kidney function has decreased to 10 percent. The 50-year-old Vancouver resident and father of two has, so far, coped well physically with his diagnosis, but the mental part of having a failing kidney has been much more difficult to handle.
Mir has know since his diagnosis that he would need to do dialysis or get a new kidney, but fear of the future, anxiety and sadness paralyzed his decision-making.
“It has been a very hard road for eight years. I was in denial,” Mir said. “I didn’t believe it. I didn’t want to believe it, and I’d try to act like I didn’t have it. Every time I get a blood test, it’s there. It’s not going anywhere. I think it took me eight years, but I’ve come to terms with it now.”
Mir, who is working with a kidney transplant team at Legacy Good Samaritan Medical Center, said that team told him he had to start speaking up if he wanted to find a kidney transplant, and he’s come to terms with that. Mir wrote a notice that the Islamic Society of Southwest Washington emailed out in hopes of discovering donors.
Mir is hopeful he can find a donor and avoid dialysis, which would be more time consuming. His insurance would cover the procedure for the donor if one is found.